In this world, love seems to have become the most beautiful expectation in the hearts of many people.
However, pursuing the girl of one’s dreams often discourages many boys.
Some people think this is a complex project, while others think it’s just a matter of fate.
Actually, pursuing a girl is not difficult at all, it’s not easy at all.
Just like cooking a pot of soup, the ingredients are fixed, but the heat and seasoning depend on your personal skills.
So, how to approach the girl you like step by step?
Here are five persuasive steps that can be flexibly applied, and you may be the next one to break free.

1. Get to know each other
Understanding a woman before pursuing her is a necessary task.
This is not only respect for her, but also the key to whether you can successfully impress her.
Get to know her, including her interests, personality traits, work and studies.
You can learn about her daily preferences and recent updates by observing her social media updates.
For example, does she often share music, movies, or have special insights on certain topics?
These pieces of information are good entry points.
Meanwhile, communicating directly with her is also an effective way to obtain information.
Let’s start with some easy topics, such as the recent weather, her favorite foods, etc., and gradually delve into her inner world.
Additionally, obtaining information from her friends is also a good option.
But it should be noted that the way of obtaining information should be natural, and not make the other party feel that you are deliberately inquiring.
Through these efforts, you will gradually outline her contours, find common topics with her, and make the pursuit process more effortless.
2. Maintain a suitable sense of distance
The sense of distance is truly a discipline.
Too far away, cold and uninteresting; Too close, people might think you’re offensive.
It’s like stir frying, you have to control the heat well.
When neighbor A was chasing his girlfriend back then, he would occasionally send messages and chat wildly, but what was the result?
The girl thinks he’s a bit clingy, but instead feels a bit repulsed.
Once, when he heard from a friend that this girl liked cats, he would send an interesting cat picture every few days, chat briefly, and then give her a little doll after a while, gradually building a closer relationship.
You see, this is called appropriate timing, which neither makes people feel indifferent nor impatient.
Maintaining a suitable sense of distance requires constant observation and adjustment during the communication process.
You need to make her feel your presence and care, without making her feel constrained.
This degree must be carefully controlled.
For example, you can appear promptly when she needs help, but do not frequently disturb her when she is busy or needs to be alone.
In this way, she will feel that you are a person who is both considerate and knows how to be moderate.
3. Show your true side
Sincerity is the most precious quality when pursuing love.
Girls are often able to keenly detect boys’ disguises and falsehoods, and once they discover that your true face is vastly different from your performance, they will start to back down.
For example, when friend A is pursuing a girl, in order to demonstrate their financial strength, they often treat her to a big meal and give her expensive gifts.
However, when he caught up with her, the girl found that he couldn’t even afford the rent, and this sense of difference made her feel unacceptable.
Therefore, instead of spending a lot of money to please others, it’s better to show your true side.
You are a humorous person, take her to watch comedy movies and let her feel your wit;
If you are a sports expert, invite her to go for a run together and let her see your vitality and health.
Showing your true self not only allows her to understand you better, but also makes her feel your sincerity and confidence.
Remember, a simple life is often more attractive.
Instead of pursuing romance in front of flowers and under the moon, it’s better to showcase your charm in the mundane world of daily necessities.
4. Create small surprises

Most girls like surprises, but surprises are not necessarily the more expensive the better, they depend on your feelings.
Friend B knows this very well when pursuing a girlfriend.
On an ordinary rainy day, he quietly prepared a beautiful umbrella for the girl and posted a warm message on it:
Remember to think of me on rainy days
This simple concern successfully captured the girl’s heart.
Small surprises don’t need to be grand, sometimes a cup of hot milk tea, a warm message, or a handmade gift can make girls feel your delicacy and care.
The key is to understand her habits and needs, and give her some care at the appropriate time.
In this way, she will feel that you are really putting your heart into her, rather than just going through the motions casually.
In the process of creating surprises, you can capture her preferences and needs by observing her daily behavior.
For example, if she likes to eat a certain fruit, you can prepare a fruit platter for her;
She has been under a lot of work pressure lately, so take her to relax.
These seemingly insignificant details often make her feel your sincerity and care.
5. Be patient and wait
There’s no rush to chase after a girl.
Just like planting flowers, watering and fertilizing need to be done slowly.
You can’t eat hot tofu in a hurry. Don’t start thinking that she doesn’t like you just because she hasn’t responded after confessing her feelings.
Everyone has their own rhythm and pace, what you need to do is to appear when she needs it, quietly protect her, instead of shouting “like you, like you” in her ear every day.
Neighbor A has been pursuing a girl for more than half a year without confessing her feelings.
But he wasn’t in a hurry either, he kept silently being her friend, occasionally inviting out for a meal and listening to her troubles.
Finally, at a birthday party, the girl took the initiative to ask him:
Do you like me
He just smiled and nodded.
This story tells us that love takes time to cultivate, and patience is one of the most important qualities when pursuing love.
During the waiting process, you can constantly improve yourself and become even better.
At the same time, one should also learn to observe her reactions and attitudes, and adjust their strategies in a timely manner.
It’s not too late to confess your feelings to her when you feel the time is right.
Conclusion
The process of pursuing a girl is like a beautiful encounter, which requires us to experience and feel it with our hearts.
By getting to know each other, maintaining a suitable distance, showcasing our true selves, creating small surprises, and patiently waiting, we can not only gradually bring ourselves closer to the girl we admire, but also continuously grow and improve in this process.
Remember, love is not a quick game, but a journey that requires patience and sincerity.
As long as you pursue with your heart, believe that you will be the next one to break free.
May you go further and further on the path of love, and ultimately reap your own happiness.