For many boys, pursuing a girl can be both a hopeful and slightly nervous “adventure”. In this process, how to express one’s emotions efficiently and appropriately has become a difficult problem for many boys. Don’t worry, today as a self media emotional master, I will reveal a series of efficient pursuit strategies for you, making your love journey smoother.
1.Getting to know her is the first step in pursuit
Observe her hobbies and interests
You know what? Understanding a girl’s interests and hobbies is like obtaining a key that unlocks her heart. Does she like reading books? You might as well ask her what book she’s been reading recently, or even read it first and discuss it with her. Does she like sports? Then you can ask her to run and play badminton together, so that she can feel your company and vitality in sports.
Follow her on social media
Nowadays, social media has almost become the ‘second face’ of our lives. Through her Facebook and other platforms, you can learn about every detail of her life, her joys and sorrows. But remember, don’t just watch silently, occasionally like or leave a message to let her know that you are paying attention to her.
Listen to her inner voice
When she is willing to share her thoughts and troubles with you, you must listen carefully. Don’t rush to give advice, sometimes all she needs is a listener, someone who can understand her.
In fact, if you want to catch a girl, as long as you can chat, there is an 80% chance of catching her. Because the core of dating is the word ‘talk’, talking about life, heart to heart, and the future with a girl. As long as you can get along with her, there will be opportunities for development. When to be humorous, when to have high emotional intelligence conversations, and at the same time provide you with a set of top-notch language skills to handle conversations in different scenarios with ease, making it easy to talk to girls.
2、 Improve yourself and let her see your charm
Inner cultivation
One who is filled with knowledge always behaves with elegance. Improving one’s inner cultivation is not just about reading more books, but also about learning to think and understand the world. When you chat with her, if you can quote classics and talk about the past and present, she will naturally look at you with new eyes.
External image
Don’t forget, first impressions are important. A neat hairstyle and a suitable set of clothes can greatly enhance your charm. It doesn’t need to be too luxurious, but it must be clean and tidy, so that she can see that you are a person who values quality of life.
Confidence and Humor
Confident men are the most charming. When you are with her, don’t be afraid of your hands and feet, express your thoughts boldly. Meanwhile, humor is also a powerful tool that can dissolve awkwardness and make the atmosphere more relaxed. But remember, humor is not just slick talk, it should be moderate.
3、 Create opportunities to warm up emotions
Tips for Dating
Dating is an essential part of the pursuit process. But dating is not as simple as having a meal or watching a movie. You need to arrange the date according to her preferences. For example, if she likes art, you can take her to an art exhibition; She likes nature, so you can invite her to go hiking. It’s important to make her feel your sincerity during the date.
little surprise
Who doesn’t like surprises? On her birthday, give her a bouquet of her favorite flowers; When she’s in a bad mood, prepare a small cake that she likes for her. These small surprises don’t need to be too expensive, but they must make her feel your care and concern.
common experience
Shared experiences are the best way to deepen relationships. You can join her in a volunteer activity, travel together, or even do a handicraft project together. In these processes, you will understand and support each other, and your feelings will naturally heat up.
4、 Expressing emotions requires both courage and appropriateness
Choose the right timing
Expressing emotions, timing is crucial. Don’t confess your feelings when she’s in a bad mood or when she’s busy. Choose a moment when she is in a happy and relatively relaxed mood to make your confession smoother.
Sincere Words
When confessing, one must be sincere. Don’t just say clich é s, tell her why you like her and how special she is in your heart. Sincere words often touch people’s hearts.
Respect her decision
Finally, no matter what her decision is, you must respect it. If she accepts you, then of course everyone is happy; If she rejects you, don’t be discouraged. At least, you bravely expressed your emotions without leaving any regrets.
5、 You must avoid the “minefield” in the pursuit process
Don’t be too eager
Pursuing girls is like stewing meat, it requires slow and delicate cooking. Don’t act too eager from the beginning, which will make her feel a lot of pressure. Take it slow and let the emotions develop naturally.
Don’t try to change her
Everyone has their own unique personality and habits. Don’t try to change her and make her the way you want her to be. To love her, one must accept everything about her, including her strengths and weaknesses.
Don’t ignore her feelings
In the pursuit process, it is easy to only focus on one’s own feelings and ignore hers. You should always pay attention to her reactions and emotions. If she shows discomfort or annoyance, then you need to adjust your strategy in a timely manner.
Don’t just say without doing
Some boys may speak extravagantly, but their actual actions are rare. Remember, actions are always more persuasive than words. You need to prove your sincerity and determination with practical actions.
6、 The “preservation” technique after pursuing success
Stay romantic
After pursuing success, don’t think you can rest assured. Romance is the seasoning in love. You should occasionally create some small surprises for her, making her feel that your love has not diminished.
grow together
The best love is when two people grow together. You need to face the challenges in life with her and share the happiness in life together. In the process of growing together, your relationship will become even deeper.
Communication is key
No matter what problems arise, communication is crucial. You need to communicate your thoughts and feelings honestly with her, and also listen to her thoughts and feelings. Only through communication can you get to know each other better and cherish each other more.
Give her space
Love is not about possession, but about mutual respect. You need to give her enough space to have her own friends and hobbies. In this way, she will cherish the time spent with you even more.
7、 The pursuit secrets of those ‘experts’
Observe carefully and cater to your preferences
Masters pursue girls and always carefully observe every detail of them, and then cater to their preferences. For example, if she likes to drink a certain type of coffee, he will quietly remember it and bring it to her when she needs it. This kind of carefulness and dedication often touches people’s hearts.
Playing hard to win, moderate coldness
Sometimes, being moderately indifferent to her can actually make her care more about you. Of course, this kind of indifference is not true indifference, but rather to make her feel your “ambiguous” at the appropriate time, so as to cherish you even more.
Show off your unique charm
Everyone has their own unique charm. Masters know how to showcase their charm and show girls their uniqueness. For example, they may be skilled in a certain musical instrument or have a unique aesthetic perspective. These charms often attract the attention of girls.
Maintain a sense of mystery
Mystery is the catalyst in love. Masters know how to maintain their sense of mystery and make girls curious about them. For example, they may occasionally say ambiguous things or do things that are difficult to understand. This sense of mystery often makes girls more eager to understand them.
Pursuing girls is actually not difficult. As long as you put in your heart to get to know her, improve yourself, create opportunities, bravely express emotions, and avoid those ‘minefields’, you have a chance to succeed. Of course, after pursuing success, how to “preserve” love is also a subject of study. But as long as you are willing to put in sincerity and effort, I believe you will definitely reap your own happiness. Finally, I wish every one of you who is pursuing love can find the one who belongs to her!